Sherman made the terrible discovery that men make about their fathers sooner or later . . . that the man before him was not an aging father but a boy, a boy much like himself, a boy who grew up and had a child of his own and, as best he could, out of a sense of duty and, perhaps love, adopted a role called Being a Father so that his child would have something mythical and infinitely important:
a Protector, who would keep a lid on all the chaotic and
catastrophic possibilities of life.
~Tom Wolfe (1930 – ) The Bonfire of the Vanities (1987)
I’ve been out of the popular culture loop since a poorly-placed half-filled coffee mug pffft’ed my tv.¬† Then I had to replace my laptop because, in solidarity with the tv, it decided that I was working it just too damn hard.¬† My cell phone is thinking of joining the electronic exodus from my midst, and I’m living on borrowed battery time.¬† I think I’ve managed to persuade it to hang on until the new iPhone comes out.¬† It says that it just can’t go on any longer and I certainly understand it’s position.¬† Life is hard, and e-life can be e-xciting or e-nergizing but is often just E-NOUGH, already.
My membership at the health club was up and, no sooner had I re-upped before a balcony came tumbling down on the pool’s skylight.¬† Out of commission until repairs can be made and reconciliations with the Department of Buildings complete.¬† Read: Until Further Notice.¬† So I have to shlep a little further for my swim.¬† New swim suit also needed; current purple number has had it.¬† I know how it feels.¬† On the other hand, swimming is becoming a distant memory because of time constraints in other, newly-emerging parts of business life.
Hurry back, Shelly!¬† I need the reinforcement of Only The Good Friday to keep my week’s end from descending into Fried-day.¬† I know all too well how it feels.
CELEBRATE DAD ON SUNDAY
Don’t forget to shop for Dad’s one day a year to be special.¬† See gift suggestions for a cookin’ dad.¬† Don’t buy something for yourself, thinking he’ll not know.¬† They never say, but they always know.¬† Or
- Give his car a good detailing, inside and out.
- Get a 12-pack of specialty beer or ale, or a case of good wine.
- Let him plan the day, whatever he wants to do.
PLAN A SPECIAL MEAL JUST FOR YOUR DAD
Oh, go ahead.¬† Even if it’s only hot dogs and beans, he’ll appreciate spending time with you.¬† Cook his favorite things or something extra special made by you just for him.¬† Doesn’t have to be fancy; they like it better if it’s not.¬† See Father’s Day Menu.
OR A SPECIAL TIME TOGETHER, JUST THE TWO OF YOU
- Go to a movie or bowling.
- Go to a pool hall and shoot a few racks.
- Take a hike or go cycling.
- Take a day trip to the nearest beach.
- Go to the driving range and hit a few buckets of balls.
- Go to a baseball game.
- Play a game of baseball or basketball.
- Organize a poker game, with cigars.
What is your most memorable Father’s Day gift, either given or received?
Today’s preparation is for a simple Glazed Nuts, pecans and/or almonds.¬† Lightly sweetened for a special taste.